by Andy Lee @WordsByAndyLee
I was in fourth grade,
and the opening day of the Tillman County Fair grew closer by the minute.
Excitement kept me up at night as I tossed and turned and day-dreamed in the
dark of winning blue ribbons.
Competition didn’t
pump through my veins on the basketball court or baseball field. An athlete I
was not. But give me a sewing machine, recipe, or a speech contest, and I could
win with the best of them—humbly of course.
But this county fair
was different. My offerings to the contests did not fare as well as the year
before. The chocolate chips in my famous chocolate chip cookies melted into the
batter turning the golden delights into brown ones, but there was no time to
bake another batch. Those would have to do. I hoped their taste would overpower
their looks.
And my Thanksgiving
table cloth with appliqued napkins and stuffed pumpkins was not perfect. Sewing
a straight line never was my strength. Yet, it was creative. I thought.
So needless to say,
after the judging was done, the ribbons adorning my entries were not blue. One
was red and the other white. First place would not be mine to attain that year.
My ten-year-old competitive heart crumbled. Disappointment hung thick in the
car as we drove home down highway seventy passed Rhonda Rollin’s daddy’s Dairy
Freeze. Not even an ice cream cone could make me feel better.
Wisely, my mom gave me
time to grieve. She didn’t impart her advice until we pulled into our driveway.
The blue Ford slowly rolled up to the house. Mom braked gently, put it in park,
turned the ignition off, and turned toward her pouting, freckled face daughter.
That’s when she gave me the advice that stuck with me for the rest of my life.
No rebuke.
No “You’ll do better
next time.”
Just.
“Andy, in life you
have to be a teeter-totter. You can’t always be on top. Others win. That’s just
the way life is. Sometimes you’re on top, and sometimes you’re not.”
Time and time again
that wisdom has softened the blow of defeat granting me grace for myself and
the one who won. It even helped me recently when I learned that I had not won a
writing contest. My initial disappointment wasn’t graceful. The loss stirred up
that ten-year old girl who decided she would never enter another contest.
I even thought, Maybe I’m done writing! Maybe I should do
something else.
I began second
guessing everything I’ve written.
But after a
short-stack of pancakes with a lot of butter and syrup, the memory of a my
mom’s advice drifted through my mind. It
lessened the disappointment, silenced the doubts, and placed it all in
perspective.
Andy, you have to be a teeter-totter.
Such wisdom. Her words
reminded me that life is not about blue ribbons or being an award-winning writer.
No, life is about using our gifts and passions for the Kingdom of Light.
And taking turns.
If my turn on the
ground gives someone else the chance to be in the air, I’ll take my turn.
Honestly, God didn’t tell me to win an award-winning book. He just told me to
write a book.
And I did.
What was the best
piece of advice your mom gave you?
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Andy Lee is a Bible teacher, blogger, and author
of A Mary Like Me: Flawed Yet Called (Leafwood,
2016) and The Book of Ruth Key Word Bible
Study: A 31-Day Journey to Hope and Promise (AMG Publishers). Visit her
site, www.wordsbyandylee.com where
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